Do you ever stop and notice how fast life is passing you by? I do. It seems like just yesterday we had four little ones under six. In the blink of an eye, we have two teenagers and two tweens. Life just keeps moving on, whether we want it to or not.
You Are Responsible
I read this quote recently in Grace Not Perfection by Emily Ley, and it has since become one of my favorites:
You are responsible for the way you’ll look back on your life when you’re eighty years old. You’re in control of the way you’ll feel that day in your rocking chair on your front porch.
from Grace Not Perfection by Emily Ley
A Life Well-Lived
I love this quote for what it represents. It represents a life well-lived. It’s the idea of a person sitting in a rocking chair on their front porch and reflecting back on life. The simple fact of the matter is that all of us are headed towards that. There’s going to be a chance one day to sit and reflect, to look back on our lives. Will we look back with regret or in gratitude for the life we lived?
All of us want to look back on our lives with gratitude and not regret, but how do we do that now? What do we need to do to be sure that happens? The answer could be so many things–spend time with the ones we love, work hard, start each morning with God, serve others, fulfill God’s purpose for your life…and on and on the list could go. Or we could boil it down to one thing:
Take responsibility for that future today.
If we lived today (and every day after that) with that truth in mind, we will live on purpose. We will spend time doing all those things mentioned above–spending time with the ones we love, finding God’s purpose for our lives, starting each morning with God, and more.
Life is Short
Life is short. David reminds us of that over and over again.
“Lord, remind me how brief my time on earth will be. Remind me that my days are numbered— how fleeting my life is. You have made my life no longer than the width of my hand. My entire lifetime is just a moment to you; at best, each of us is but a breath.”
Psalm 39:4, 5 NLT
Before we know it, life will be passed. We will be the one sitting in the rocking chair on the front porch. Will we look back on our life with regret? Or will we reflect on the amazing life God gave us and know that we made the very best of the time we were given? You are responsible for the answer to that question.
I don’t know if you’re like me, but I often find myself running around frazzled, defeated, overwhelmed, and most days just plain tired. Part of it is the stage of life I’m in, but part of it is this driving force to work harder, do better, accomplish more. Somehow, I’ve convinced myself that if I just try harder, I can have it all—a clean and organized home, perfect homeschool days, fitting in my writing every day, having people into my home, ministering to others…on and on the list goes. The simple fact is I can’t do everything, not all at the same time. Sometimes, I just need grace. I’m reading Grace Not Perfection by Emily Ley right now and loving it. I love all her books! They are so filled with practical wisdom and advice for a mom trying to do it all.
Feeding My Soul
A few days ago, I read something in her book that really made me stop and think about what I’m feeding my soul. Our soul is what makes up our character, thoughts, feelings…who we really are inside.
If our well is fed by a stream of comparison, anxiety, and stress, guess what we will have to give to our families? Sharp words, headaches, and impatience will brim to the top. Nothing good can come out of that poisoned well. But what would we have if we let our wells be filled with things like rest, laughter, confidence, good tea, hugs, and adventure? I want to overflow with that sweet water.
from Grace Not Perfection by Emily Ley
What Comes Out of the Heart
Jesus taught this same message to his disciples when he talked about fruit. He taught that a good tree can’t produce bad fruit, and a bad tree can’t produce good fruit. Then he talked about our hearts—how what we say comes out of our heart.
A good person produces good things from the treasury of a good heart, and an evil person produces evil things from the treasury of an evil heart. What you say flows from what is in your heart.
Luke 6:45 NLT
Pulling from a Poisoned Well
If we constantly fill our soul with social media, carefully curated images of other people’s homes, comparison, anxiety, stress, feelings of not enough, overwhelm, shame, and guilt, what’s going to come out?
First, there’s the emotional toll—anger, bitterness, gossip, the need to put others down. Then comes the physical toll—headaches, body pain, sleepless nights, heart racing, and more. Just like Emily said, it’s like pulling from a poisoned well.
Why would we do that to ourselves? Why would we fill our minds with things that don’t bring us peace, hope, and joy? I think it has to do with the fact that it’s easy; it’s mindless. In a world that’s filled with stress and decisions and work to be done, it’s easier to just sit and mindlessly scroll.
Filling Up With Joy
Instead, we need to find opportunities for joy. Do more things that make us smile, that fill us up. Spend more time doing the things we love with the people we love most. I’m not good at this, at all; but it’s something I want to do better with.
This last week, we got a chance to do this. We got to spend a few days at the beach with my parents. We spent time together eating good food, laughing, playing games, and just spending time together. We also fit in a few sunrises because that brings me incredible joy.
What can you do right now in your present circumstances to add more of what you love, what brings you joy, what fills you up? How can you spend more time doing things with the people you love and putting into them instead of into things that don’t matter. I’m challenging myself to find ways to spend more time doing things with my kids, creating opportunities for love and laughter, and finding ways to just add more joy to my life.
My kids have this thing they do. I call it “hovering.” They call it “Dad, I need you attention right now, even though it’s not life or death and no one’s bleeding, I need to see your eyeballs RIGHT NOW!” Or something like that.
They will stand next to me, put their head on my shoulder, and sigh in my ear. Some days I tell them, “This is my ‘No-No’ square. Don’t touch me anywhere.” On my better days, I ask them what they need.
Most times they want something to eat, drink, or a new app downloaded on a device. My oldest usually has a high-priced pair of sneakers he wants. You know what my response will be? “Christmas is coming.”
What Do You Want?
The other day, my youngest pulled the old “hover-head-shoulder-sigh” approach. “Yes, can I help you,” I said like a British butler.
“Dad, when a movie maker person wants to use an actor in a movie and another movie person wants to use the same actor in a movie…do you know what I mean?”
“Yes, my love. I understand what you mean.”
“Well, I’m wondering how does that work?” she asked.
She didn’t need a toy or a treat. She just wanted some time. So, we had a nice little chat about movies, actors, production schedules, and theater release dates. You know, the usual stuff dads and daughters chat about.
Taking the Next Step
I loved that conversation. We connected over something she’d been thinking about. I don’t know that I had the right answers, but it sure was fun watching the wheels turn in her head. I love watching things grow. My grass…not so much. But my kids, you betcha.
I love watching people take their next step in their walk with God. I love it when someone pursues a dream they’re passionate about. Watching people take steps of faith and risk certainty for the clarity that God is calling them to launch out into a new adventure is something that lights me up. All they have is the wind at their back and their eyes of faith fixed on God.
God Loves To Hear Your Voice
Sometimes my kids need things. Who am I kidding? My kids need things all the time. But there are times when they just want to talk. They want to get something off their chest. They want to understand why something is the way it is. Why do some kids say unkind things? Will people ever stop hurting each other? Why does a trip to Papa and Grandmas take so long? Why does Christmas feel like it will never get here? What is heaven going to be like? Will you and mom ever stop kissing? Just the everyday run of the mill kind of questions.
Sometimes my kids will hesitate to ask a question. They might be afraid I’ll say no. They might not be able to verbalize what they’re trying to say. Or they think I’m too busy to take the time to listen.
Jesus Teaches Us How to Ask
In Matthew 7, Jesus tells us about prayer. But more so, he tells us about how our Heavenly Father handles our prayers.
“Keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking, and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks, receives. Everyone who seeks, finds. And to everyone who knocks, the door will be opened.
“You parents—if your children ask for a loaf of bread, do you give them a stone instead?Or if they ask for a fish, do you give them a snake? Of course not! So if you sinful people know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your heavenly Father give good gifts to those who ask him.”
Matthew 7:7-12 NLT
Jesus tells us to ask, seek, and knock. What’s the difference?
Asking means that we need to know an answer to a question. Asking means that we need God to provide for a need.
Seeking means that we are trying to find something we’ve lost; we’re looking for something we value. Seeking means we are trying to uncover something that’s hidden.
Knocking means that we want to be on the other side of the door. We want access to what is beyond the door. We want to get into the room, and we want to leave the cold, the emptiness, and the uncertainty.
Keep Asking
Jesus uses the word “keep” in relation to each of those actions. Why? Jesus wants us to keep asking even after we’ve received. He wants us to keep seeking even after we’ve found. He wants us to keep knocking even after the doors been answered. Why? God wants us to realize it’s not about receiving, finding, or being answered. He wants us to engage him, pursue him, and connect with him continually.
God wants you to ask him the stupid, silly, and foolish questions. He wants you to ask the hard, heart-breaking, and doubt-filled questions. He’s okay with that. He can handle that. He’s God after all; He can handle a lot of things.
“Think of what He can do, and how He delights to hear the prayers of His redeemed people. Think of your place and privilege in Christ, and expect great things!”
Andrew Murray
He’s Waiting for You to Ask
Jesus wraps it up with an illustration. If a child asks for bread or a fish, will a parent give them a stone or a snake? Of course not. He then uses our humanity to reveal God’s divinity. Jesus says, “If you’re an imperfect, sinful parent, and you know how to love on your kids, how much more will a perfect and holy God know how to give his kids good gifts when they ask?”
God is just waiting for you to ask. Will he always drop a thousand dollars into your bank account? Nope. But he wants you to ask the question. He wants you to talk to him. He’s waiting. He’s willing, and he’s listening.
I’m praying that you’ll take the time, even risk it to ask God, to engage God.
I don’t know about you, but I am so ready for spring to actually arrive in PA. This is the time of year that I struggle with discouragement. The days aren’t quite warm yet, the sun doesn’t shine often, and spring seems just out of reach. On days that I feel discouraged, I need something to combat those feelings.
The best way to combat discouragement is to be thankful. Gratitude defeats discouragement every time. So if you’re feeling discouraged or just down today, I have something for you to try.
An Assignment for Today
Get out a sheet of paper and write the alphabet, one letter per line. Then spend a few minutes thinking of something you’re thankful for that starts with that letter. You can get creative; some of the letters are harder than others.
I did this assignment this morning, just to see if it works. I had fun doing it; it tapped into my creative side as well as my gratitude. The ones I couldn’t think of, Matt helped me finish off. Like I said, you have to get creative. We did (e)xperiences for x. It doesn’t have to be perfect. You’re just spending a few minutes remembering how good God has been. (Don’t mind my changing colors; my pens kept taking turns going out on me.)
God’s Command to Remember
God told his people over and over again to remember the things he had done for them. I read it again this morning in my morning time.
But be sure to fear the Lord and faithfully serve him. Think of all the wonderful things he has done for you.
I Samuel 12:24 NLT
It is so easy to get discouraged and forget what God has done in the past, or what he’s done even today. Just today alone, he gave you another day, a sunrise, strength to get out of bed, a job, food on the table, family to enjoy life with, a warm bed to sleep in, a home to live in, a car to drive, friends to do life with, a church family…and on and on the list goes. Those may not all be true for you, but most of them probably are. We have so much to be thankful for.
Spending just a few minutes today and every day remembering to be thankful changes your thought process. It can turn discouragement into gratitude. Try it and see if it works!
If you enjoyed today’s post and writing down what you’re thankful for, check out our Faithfully Stepping Journals. We provide a section to write down every day what you’re grateful for. I can’t tell you what a difference it makes to take the first few minutes of your day (every day) to write down what you’re thankful for.
Pay day is the most exciting day…even when we know the money is most going to be used to pay the bills. There’s still a part of us that gets excited. We’re getting the payoff for our hard work. Bonuses are even more fun because they are just “extra.” It’s an extra payment for doing a good job or going above and beyond.
Getting paid helps us to remember that somebody sees us, sees our work. It’s the payoff for working hard.
Similarly, God tells us that he sees our work.
“I know all the things you do. I have seen your love, your faith, your service, and your patient endurance. And I can see your constant improvement in all these things.
God Sees You
He sees all the things you do. He sees your love, your faith, your service, and your patient endurance.
He’s seen that you love when nobody else does. He sees the constant love you pour out on your family, your neighbors, and those around you. He sees that you give of yourself tirelessly, often with nothing in return.
Hes sees your faith. You’ve been so tempted to give up, to throw in the towel. Yet you haven’t. You’ve believed when there was nothing to see. You’ve stayed faithful when everybody else walked away. You’ve dug deep see to continue to see God’s goodness, to trust that goodness…even when nobody else could see it.
Your service has not gone unnoticed. He’s seen the million times your served in nursery, kids club, your ministry. He’s seen all the times you’ve made a meal for someone or given money to help those in need. He’s seen your hours of service, and he doesn’t forget it .
Lastly, he’s seen your patient endurance. You’ve haven’t given up when times were hard, when money was low, or when discouragement was rampant. You’ve refused to give up and walk away when everybody else has. You have patiently endured.
Pay Day is Coming
Then he takes it a step further. He sees your growth in each of these areas. He’s taken notice. And the amazing thing about God? He has a long memory. He doesn’t forget. In fact, he keeps a tally, a record. I don’t know when it’s coming, but pay day is coming. One day, God is going to reward you for the things you’ve done. And while we spiritualize things so often, it doesn’t have to be just in heaven. Yes, our ultimate reward are in heaven, but God promises blessings in the here and now as well.
So stay faithful because pay day is coming. God has been watching and keeping track, and he is going to reward you accordingly.
Do you ever feel like you were created for something more? It’s the desire to do something great with God. You have this burning desire inside you to do something more, to create something, be a part of something greater than you. Have you ever gotten that itch inside, an itch that can’t be scratched? Sometimes it lasts a few days; sometimes it lasts a few years. Other times, it lasts a lifetime.
Those God-Urges to do Something Great
I’ve felt this urge so many times. The first time it got really strong was many years ago, before we had kids. Matt and I talked and dreamed about what God had in store. It was in that next year that we left the church we’d been working at for five years and went out on our own to start a church outside of Philadelphia.
The next time that urge came really strongly, our kids were all little. We were full-on in the kid-rearing years. We were raising four kids, all born within five years of each other. It was crazy and chaotic, and yet, I felt like I wanted something more. I felt like God was leading me to do something more. I did lots of journaling, praying, listening to sermons and reading books. Out of that time, this blog was born.
That urge would come back again a few years later when the bottom fell out, and we stopped getting paid at our small church for several months. When we did start getting paid again, it was less than half what we previously made. Urgency to be able to help bring in an income along with a desire to create led me to publish my first book, Red Rose Rising.
God Leading Once Again
It hasn’t surprised me then when Matt and I sat down together a few months ago and started talking about what God has in store for us next. I told him how I felt God working and moving again, and he told me how he’s felt the same. I told him how I’ve felt the “winds of change.”
That’s what I use to describe what’s happening when the ground beneath you isn’t quite as steady as it used to be. You start noticing things, small things at first. But those small things start adding up until you realize that something is happening. It takes a while to put it together, but then you realize that the Holy Spirit is working and moving, and things are starting to change.
from my blog post When the Winds of Change Begin to Blow
We’ve talked at length about we believe God is moving us to do and create next. And we’re so excited to see what he has in store! What do you do when that starts to happen? How do you know God is moving and preparing you to do the same, whether that’s an actual physical move or simply a new business venture, product, opportunity, or ministry?
It Starts in the Mind
In the Old Testament, specifically in the book of Deuteronomy, God started preparing his people for what he wanted them to do next. He was preparing them to actually go into the Promised Land after forty years of wandering in the wilderness. We can look at that example and see how God led them.
“You must destroy all the nations the Lord your God hands over to you. Show them no mercy, and do not worship their gods, or they will trap you.Perhaps you will think to yourselves, ‘How can we ever conquer these nations that are so much more powerful than we are?’ But don’t be afraid of them! Just remember what the Lord your God did to Pharaoh and to all the land of Egypt. Remember the great terrors the Lord your God sent against them. You saw it all with your own eyes! And remember the miraculous signs and wonders, and the strong hand and powerful arm with which he brought you out of Egypt. The Lord your God will use this same power against all the people you fear.
Deuteronomy 7:16-20
God wanted them to remember what he was capable of. He encourages them to remember. He wanted them to remember what he did in the past. He reminded them of what he did to get them out of Egypt. Why? Because that was how he was going to work again.
Time to Work
After God reminded them how he worked in the past, it was time to get to work. And it was going to be some serious work! God wanted them to go into the Promised Land and conquer the nations already living there. They had to go to war and defeat seven nations, living in their own strongholds. That’s a pretty heavy task.
Yes, God would be with them. Yes, He would give them the victory. But they had to do the work. They had to prepare and go to war time and time again until the Promised Land was theirs.
What does this look like in our lives? When we feel God leading us to do something, to create something, to start something? What do we do?
What’s It Look Like for Us Today?
We can follow the same example. For us, it looks like this. We look at how God has worked in the past. Matt and I take time to talk through and write down ways God led us in the past—how he worked, where he worked, what he taught us, and more. Then we write down what we believe he is leading us to do next. We do the research, reading, discussing, and whatever else we need to do before we can move forward.
Then we get to work. It sounds simple, but that’s often where people get stuck. They know God wants them to do something, but they never actually do the hard work. God will lead us and direct us, but he won’t do the work for us. We have to roll up our sleeves and do actual work. This is the non-romantic part, often the not-fun part. It’s way more fun to sit and dream and talk about what God is doing and how he is working than it is to actually do the work. But this is how God accomplishes his work through us.
If you’re in that place today where you feel like God is actively moving, it’s time to take the next step. Spend time praying, reading God’s Word, journaling, and remembering how he’s worked in the past. See where he is leading you now. Get counsel, make plans, research what it is God’s leading you to do.
Then, get to work. Do the hard work; put in the time. Take the chance. Build something great with God; create something amazing. Then watch as God leads you into what he has in store and allows you to do something great with him.
One Last Note
Notice I’ve been saying “do something great with God,” not for God. I think this is where a lot of us get messed up. God doesn’t need us to do anything for him. He allows us to do work with him. He’s not sitting back watching and waiting for us to build him something, create something for him. No, he wants to do a great work with us. It’s just like making anything with our kids. The finished product is not the most important part; the most important part is the time we spent building it with them. I think it’s the same thing with God.
It’s not about what we are actually creating; it’s the process of working with God. It’s the time we spend talking to him, dreaming, listening to his voice, and searching for him and his wisdom. Then it’s about working with him. It’s God at work in and through us, not about we can do for him.
For More Encouragement
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Have you ever had salt water? Maybe as a mouth rinse or maybe after getting dunked in the ocean? It’s a nasty experience. One you’ve gotten that salty taste on your tongue and on your lips, it’s hard to get rid of it. The only way to get it out of your mouth is to drink fresh water or something else to wash away that salty taste.
Salt can do so much good. It can add flavor to food; it can preserve meat. But too much salt makes you gag. I remember my brother-in-law made an apple pie for a party once, and he accidentally used salt instead of sugar. We took one bite of that pie and spit it out; it was terrible. Salt is only good in small quantities, and you definitely can’t live on salt water. You have to have fresh, clean water to survive.
Salt Water vs. Fresh Water
I read a verse in my morning time this week that caught my attention. James talks about this concept of bitter water and fresh water.
Does a spring of water bubble out with both fresh water and bitter water? Does a fig tree produce olives, or a grapevine produce figs? No, and you can’t draw fresh water from a salty spring.
James 3:11,12
That phrase, you can’tdraw fresh water from a salty spring, caught my attention. You can’t get fresh water from salt water; it’s just not going to happen.
Feeling Empty
If you’re at a place in life where you’re discouraged, tired, worn out, bitter, frustrated…there will be no inspiration, no creativity. There will be no fresh ideas, dreaming, and excitement about the future. That’s not a fun place to be; I know because I’ve been there. I’ve also been on the other side, the side that’s teeming with life, ideas, creativity, and excitement.
What do you do when you get stuck in that worn out and discouraged cycle? What do you do when you feel like you’re drawing from a salty spring instead of fresh water? One of the best ways to combat this feeling is to find beauty.
When we recognize beauty, we encounter the divine. God himself draws us close, and we behold him, the author of beauty itself.
When I realized I was more obsessed with what was broken than with what was beautiful, I made some changes. I took more walks in nature, looking for the God-created beauty all around. I noticed baby birds singing a chorus in a nest above my head, natural springs with the sound of water gurgling under a rock, and a green tunnel of leaves with a soft, mossy floor where a mama fox protected her young.
Encountering beauty isn’t just about noticing the natural beauty in the world around you; it’s about noticing the beautiful things God has planted inside you and allowing those things to flourish. It’s about reclaiming your creativity and seeing how that creativity is a God-given thing.
Building a Resilient Life
Finding Beauty
One of the best ways to find creativity, fresh ideas, and encouragement is to find beauty both in the world around us and in what God is doing in and through us.
Beauty can be found in so many places, some of which we don’t expect. We found beauty yesterday at a funeral, not the typical place to find beauty. Our neighbor passed away last week, and Matt had the privilege of doing the funeral. At the funeral, Matt told everyone there that yes, he was a pastor and was officiating the service. But he told them that he was more than a pastor; he was a neighbor. What’s amazing is that there were two other neighbors at the funeral as well. Because of that funeral, the gospel went out to our neighbors. There is beauty in that. There is beauty in seeing God’s grace flow out during a time of sorrow and connecting us as more than neighbors, as people created God in God’s image.
10 Ways to Find Beauty
When we get discouraged and feel there is nothing good around us, it’s time to look around. Find beauty in what God has created and where he is working. Here are a few ideas and ways to find beauty:
Take a nature walk.
Listen to beautiful music.
Read an inspirational and uplifting book.
Do something for somebody else to show love.
Take a scenic drive.
Express yourself creatively- through art, music, writing, poetry, crafting…whatever it is that you love to do creatively.
Make a list of the good in your life.
Get up early to watch the sunrise.
Sit beside water and be still.
Visit a garden, arboretum, or other nature place.
If you’re finding yourself in a place of no creativity, no life, and only discouragement, take the time this weekend to find beauty. Find something fresh and new to give you life.
When was the last time you went to a place simply to find peace? When was the last time you got away from the chaos of every day life and took the time and space to just breathe and find some rest for your soul?
Biblical Examples
I believe God uses places in our lives for times of rest and renewal. Look at these examples from the Bible.
Jesus went to a mountain.
Elijah was hidden away in a ravine.
Moses was sent to a desert.
David turned to the hills.
Paul spent three years in the desert.
Jacob was out under the stars when God gave him a vision.
In each of these cases, God prepared a place for his people to stop, rest, and take a moment away. It’s funny to note how each of these places of healing and peace are so vastly different. From a desert to a ravine to a night under the stars, God used these places to help heal his people. And often, he used it as a time to prepare them for what was coming next.
For Elijah, it came before his showdown with the prophets of Baal. Moses spent forty years in the desert before God used him to bring the children of Israel out of Egypt. Paul spent time in the desert before his ministry really got going. God often uses these times of obscurity before he moves us into the next phase of what he has for us.
Sometimes, though, these places were a continual source of peace. Jesus often got up early and went out to a mountaintop to pray and receive strength for the ministry ahead. David would turn frequently “to the hills” or to creation to find peace and solitude.
A Change of Place
There is something about a change of place that can change our thinking. It can encourage us, give us motivation to keep going. Often, it can give us inspiration to think through something new—a new concept, a new dream. It’s a time when we’re open to change. Our minds are not quite as full, and God can use that time to show us something new.
I can look back so many times in our lives when God used a place to find rest and peace and strength for the journey ahead. It’s been in these places of peace that God has often showed us the next step. Maybe it’s as simple as a change of schedule we need to make or a new ministry to start. Other times, it’s been something much bigger—a move, a change of direction, a new stage of life.
When we are so busy with every-day life, it’s pretty hard to pull out and look at your life. It’s hard to see what God would have you do differently or change. It’s when we go to these places of peace that we can find rest and the time to be able to mentally process what God is doing, how he’s working.
Places of Peace
There are so many places of peace. Here are some of the places God has used in our lives over the years. Some of them seem so simple or even slightly ridiculous. Yet, God has used each of these places and spaces to work in our lives. It’s a twenty-five hour car ride across the country in which God has shown us that it’s time to move. It’s a quiet coffee house, sitting across from each other that we dream and talk about what we believe God wants us to do next.
a coffee shop
a lake
a hotel room
a rental house
a book store
a car ride
a sunset
an early morning at the beach
a walk on a trail through the woods
a nice restaurant
Sometimes, it’s been a simple coffee shop. Other times, it’s been a few days in a private room in the middle of Amish country. In each of these cases, God has prepared a place for us to get away, find rest, and find renewal.
Coffeeshop in Lancaster
There’s a coffee shop in Amish country here in Pennsylvania that is a place of peace for us. It’s a bright, sunny, wide-open space with exposed wood beams, a fireplace, and beautiful hand-crafted tables. There’s always quiet music playing, and there’s sort of a reverent hush in the shop. They also sell gluten free scones and have amazing coffee, so it’s pretty much a win-win for us. But it’s in this coffee shop that we often take journals and sometimes our Bibles. We sit in the quiet with a good coffee and the sun warming us through the large windowpanes and talk and dream about what God has next.
The Beach
Another place for us is the beach. We rent a house near the beach once a year with Matt’s family. Every morning, Matt and I get up early and walk over to the beach to see the sunrise. Every morning. Why? Because that’s a place where we feel peace; we feel God’s presence. We don’t usually talk while we watch the sun come up; it’s this experience of awe and amazement as you watch the sky change with the colors of predawn that all culminate in that moment the sun breaks through the horizon.
After that, we often take a long walk to a coffee shop to grab a coffee and continue the walk back to the house. We use that time to connect, to talk about how things are going, to talk about what’s next.
Time Away
When was the last time you found a place of peace? A place to get away, to take a break from everything you’re used to, and to find a new place. It’s often in a new place that God shakes us up and shows us something we’ve been searching for.
If you feel like your life is confusing right now; if you can’t make sense of life…maybe it’s time for a change of place just for a little bit. It doesn’t mean you have to move right now, although God could be pushing you in that direction. Often, we get too busy in the pressure of every day life—our jobs, housework, the kids, church and ministry, taxes, bills, endless meal planning, laundry, co-workers, neighbors…On and on the list goes. It’s not until we get away from it all in a quiet place that God can get ahold of us and really begin to show us what he has in store for us.
I am convinced that there is one thing that keeps us back from accomplishing what God wants us to do with our lives, more than anything else. This one thing has stopped people from dreaming, from fulfilling God’s plan for their lives, from doing something great with God. What is it? SHAME.
I think that we, as women, struggle with shame so much. We get to the point that we don’t even realize how much it weighs us down because we are so used to carrying it around. It simply becomes part of our every day load. Yet, God never intended for us to carry around guilt all the time. That is totally on us.
God’s Forgiveness
When God chose to forgive us, he did so not because we deserved it. He forgave us because of His mercy and kindness and love. He gave us new life through His spirit.
When God our Savior revealed his kindness and love, he saved us, not because of the righteous things we had done, but because of his mercy. He washed away our sins, giving us a new birth and new life through the Holy Spirit.He generously poured out the Spirit upon us through Jesus Christ our Savior. Because of his grace he made us right in his sight and gave us confidence that we will inherit eternal life.
Titus 3:4-7 NLT
So why do we choose to live in the guilt and shame of our past and sometimes present mistakes. Why do we convince ourselves that we aren’t enough? Why do we live in the shame and guilt of not enough?
I’m not doing enough.
I’m not a good enough mom.
I am not trying hard enough.
My kids deserve better.
My spouse deserves better.
I will never be more than this.
Flip the Script
We let our shame define us and define who we are, instead of letting God define who we are. We have to flip the script and personalize God’s truth.
I am a child of the most High God.
God created me perfectly and wonderfully.
God has adopted me, making me his family.
God loves me with unfailing love.
His mercy is fresh and available every single morning.
We have to change our thinking. We can’t allow negative thoughts to just swirl around in our heads all day long. Instead, we need to replace those negative thoughts of shame with truth. Paul explains that it’s like taking each thought captive.
We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.
II Corinthians 10:5 NLT
When you feel those feelings of shame and not enough begin to creep up, choose to replace them with truth. Often those feelings come late at night, when everybody’s in bed, and it’s hard to sleep. That’s when we need to have a thought or a verse ready to think about.
We are full-on into this new year. This is a great time to start or re-boot your morning time routine. A morning time routine is simply the words I use to describe the time you set aside every morning to spend with God. For me, this time includes my Bible reading, prayer time, and a few other things.
One of the things I hear over and over again from women is that they know they need to spend time with God each day, and they want to, but they just don’t. It can be hard to get started, but it’s like anything else. Once you commit to it, and develop the habit of it, it gets a whole lot easier. I want to share with you the routine I use every single morning. Use it to give you some ideas; then go out and create your own morning time routine that works for you.
My Morning Time Routine
1.Light a candle
The first thing I do every morning when I come downstairs is to light a candle. It sets the mood for the morning and creates the ambiance I’m looking for—that special feeling/knowing that this is going to be a relaxing, calming time. Some of the best places to get candles for a good price are T.J. Max, Kirkland’s, and Bath and Body Works.
2. Make coffee
The next thing I do is head to the kitchen to make myself an iced coffee with lots of whipped cream. This helps me to wake up fully, and it gives me something to look forward to before I come downstairs. Some of my favorite coffees (k-cups) are Cinnabon, peanut butter, and blueberry.
3. Pick a colored pen
For me, it’s the small things that add up that make my morning time something I look forward to. I have a cup of colored gel pens that sits on my table that I pull from each morning. I also love paper mate colored pens for journaling.
4. Journal
I open my journal and work through the prayer section of my journal. The Faithfully Stepping Journal that I’ve created has a section for gratitude, confession, and requests. I work through each of those. You can do the same thing in a regular notebook or journal. Then I’m ready to go on to the next part of my morning time.
5. Read my Bible or a Devotional
I read my Bible next; you can also read a devotional. We have several 30-Day Devotionals if you need a good devotional. If you don’t know where to start, I usually recomend starting in the book of John or the book of Psalms; or choose a devotional. Some people get tied up on this step. Keep it simple. If you read a devotional, just do the application questions at the end of the devotional for the day. If you are reading the Bible, simply write in your journal what stood out to you or what encouraged you. When you write it down, it will stay with you much longer throughout the day.
6. Read a book
Once I’m done with my Bible reading and prayer time and journaling, I spend at least ten minutes reading a good book. This can be inspirational, Christian, entrepreneurial, etc. Just read something that is going to enhance your life. Matt and I are avid readers and believe reading can help us grow in so many areas of life!
7. To-Do List
Lastly, I spend just a few minute writing down my to do list for the day. This is a simple thing I started doing several years ago that increases my productivity throughout the day so much! I use the spiral notebook system. It’s fast, easy, simple, and cheap. But use whatever works for you!
That’s what I do. Now, take those ideas and create a morning time routine that works for you that you love! Let me know how it goes for you!
