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Finding God in the Lonely Places

Places are important in our lives. Think about a place that means so much to you and your family. Maybe it’s where you got engaged or the restaurant where you had your first date. It could be the house where you found out you were having your first baby, or the town you grew up in. Place have value because they hold memories for us.

God Used Places all the time in the Bible

Places in the Bible are no less important. We see time and time again where God uses places or geographical features to do something in the lives of his people. Often it was deserts or wildernesses. God would use these places as a time set aside for his chosen person, often to get their attention.

Think of Moses in the desert and the burning bush, Joseph in Egypt, David in the caves as he runs from Saul, Elijah on the mountaintop with the prophets of Baal, Jesus praying in the garden…

Hagar in the Wilderness

Hagar was a person who experienced something in the wilderness. We find her story in Genesis 16. Abram knows he’s going to be the father of many nations; God’s promised him that. But when his wife doesn’t get pregnant, and they get too old to have kids, he and his wife take matters into their own hands. Abram sleeps with his servant, Hagar, and she becomes pregnant. Sara becomes bitter about it and treats Hagar terribly, so Hagar runs away.

Hagar finds herself alone in the wilderness. She’s sad, scared, uncertain, and all alone. And yet, God finds her there. The angel of the Lord that she will have a son. Her son, Ishmael, will have many offspring, too many to count.

The God Who Sees Me

Hagar is overcome with emotion and the fact that God came to her. She calls God by his name El-roi, “the God who sees me.” She takes notice of the fact that God saw her...in this place.

So she named the Lord who spoke to her: “You are El-roi,” for she said, “In this place, have I actually seen the one who sees me?”

Genesis 16:13CSB

Had Hagar been in a different place, would God have seen her? Yes. Would He have come to her? I don’t know. If she had stayed with Sara and Abraham, it’s possible God might not have made an appearance to her. But in the wilderness, in the place where she was very alone, God appeared to her.

Seasons in Our Lives

There are seasons and places in our lives where God comes to us and “shows” Himself to us more than at other times. Often, it’s in the “wilderness” or “desert” seasons. It’s in those times when we feel so alone, isolated, forgotten, that God shows us Himself. Sometimes, it really is a location.

It can be a college dorm room, the first time we’re away from our family. We don’t know anybody, and we are completely and utterly alone, even though we’re surrounded by hundreds or thousands of other students. Our wilderness can be in a new city or after we leave our job to stay at home with a baby. Maybe it’s after a divorce, and we suddenly find ourselves alone once again for the first time in years. Wilderness times can surprise us; other times, we know they’re coming. So many times, God uses these wilderness times to “come to us,” to remind us of who He is. It was after a time of testing when Job lost everything that he says, “I had only heard about you before, but now I’ve seen you.” (Job 42:5)

Wilderness Times

There will be times when God takes you away from everything you know, whether that’s literal or figurative. You will be completely alone and isolated, whether that’s from people or even just from peace and joy. You’ll feel alone and abandoned, discouraged and depressed. Yet, these are the times that God shows Himself to us; He shows us who He really is. When these times come, and they will, don’t abandon your faith. Don’t abandon your belief that God is good. Trust that He is still working on your behalf. He hasn’t forgotten you, and He knows exactly what you’re going through.

Instead, spend the time searching for Him. Spend extra time in your morning time routine. Pray more often; journal more frequently. Keep your eyes open and alert because it’s in the wilderness or alone times that God often shows Himself to us in a way that’s so remarkable, we won’t ever forget it.

More Encouragement

For more on this topic, check out my post, The God Who Sees Me, or check out The Hidden Pain.

When You Take Your Husband With to Watch the Sunrise

My Love for Sunrise

If you’ve been reading my blog posts for any amount of time, you know that I have a thing for mornings and for sunrises. Sunrise is the absolute best part of a new morning. Every time I see a sunrise, it reminds me that God’s mercies are new today. The slate is clean; it’s a new day with new possibilities.

I can’t see the sunrise from where I live in the city, so my go-to spot is the Starbucks parking lot a few miles from my house. From there, I can look across the street and get a good view of the sun coming up. Every so often, I drive there before the sun comes up, order a coffee, and just sit and watch the sun come up.

Our Early Morning Date

This morning, I told my husband I was going to run to Starbucks to watch the sunrise. He asked if he could go with me. So we wrote a quick note for the kids and left the house on our mini date. We got to Starbucks and I showed him where to park to avoid the trees and get the best view. Then I ran in to grab our order—an iced coffee for me and a hot coffee for him. When I came back to the car and got settled, he turned to me and said, “What do we do now?” I just laughed. He’s not used to just sitting and doing nothing.

“Now, we wait,” I said. I teased him about being like a little kid wanting to get to the next thing and we laughed together about it. He talked for a little while before I looked over at him and smiled.

“What?” he asked.

“Normally, it’s quiet when I do this,” I said with a laugh. He laughed and fell silent.

We both sat expectantly and waited for the sun to come up. It didn’t disappoint; it never does. The sun came up, glorious in its rising. We both sat quietly and watched the progression.

sunrise

The Reminder of God’s Faithfulness

The sunrise is like a gift, a reward for making it through another day, another night. To me it represents so much more than just another day. It represents God’s faithfulness and goodness. It’s a daily reminder that God hasn’t forgotten me, He hasn’t left me to navigate life by myself.

Be Reminded of God’s Faithfulness

If you are feeling discouraged today, forgotten, lonely, or just feel like you need a reminder of God’s faithfulness, I challenge you to choose a day this weekend or next week to get up early. Go find a spot where you can see the sun come up. Grab a coffee and just sit and watch. There’s something so awe-inspiring about it. I promise you, it will be worth the effort to get up early.

When the sun comes up, and the world transitions from the darkness of night to the beauty of a brand new day, let it remind you that this is God’s gift to you, his daily reminder that He hasn’t forgotten you. He loves you and will be faithful today, just as he was yesterday.

If you’re in a difficult season right now, don’t give up. Don’t listen to the voice inside your head that tries to convince you that God doesn’t love you or that He doesn’t care about what you’re going through. Remember, that just as the night will pass and the sun will eventually rise, you will come through this difficult season. God will get you through. Soon, the beginnings of daylight will start to lighten the sky. The rays of the sun will start to break through. Eventually, the sun will rise fully and the darkness will dissipate.

Just as the sun rose today, it will rise again tomorrow. So too, God will be faithful today, and He will be faithful once again tomorrow. He is right beside you, walking with you hand-in-hand to get you through another day.

For More Encouragement

For more on this topic, read Mornings are Our Reset Button.

Two songs that I’m loving right now that talk of God’s faithfulness are Do It Again and Morning by Morning. Do It Again is by Elevation Worship. I absolutely love the chorus of this song. Morning by Morning by Pat Barrett is a newer song to me that I am loving as well. Both of these songs are based on two of my favorite verses in the Bible, found in Lamentations.

It is of the Lord’s mercies that we are not consumed, because his compassions fail not. They are new every morning: great is thy faithfulness.

Lamentations 3:22,23 KJV